There are so many things that you hear when you are pregnant or a new mom. One that I heard that I agreed with was that of attached parenting. I want to be close to my kids and I love the idea of co-sleeping and babywearing. I do both of these but there are some things that I have discovered about being an attached parent that no one ever told me.
1. You will not go to the bathroom alone for some time. I am not sure how long this is going to last. My oldest is nine and even now when I am going to the bathroom he is knocking on the door and asking what I am doing or asking me questions. I don't know why it is such a hard concept to grasp for children that when someone is going to the bathroom they want to be alone. However I guess this is part of having my children attached.
2. I never would have guessed how much I would love my favorite carrier. I use my baby carrier for everything and wear her all of the time. I started with a simple pouch but have since graduated and there is not a carrier style that I have not owned. I am obsessed with wearing her and not many days go by in which she is not worn at least for a little bit.
3. Co-sleeping is amazing. I have such a strong bond and connection with my little ones but there is the fact that I have no idea when Shane and I will be able to share a bed again. That's right my bed is typically shared with my little ones and Shane is typically on the couch. I miss the intimacy that we had when we could lay in bed and talk to one another.
4. I also never knew that such a little person could take up so much room in the bed. Somehow my 2 1/2 year old is able to take up more room than Shane and I together.
5. I could have never imagined all of the ill parenting advice that I would get becuase of my choices. I love being told how my kids are going to be weird or that they are not going to be independent or be able to think on their own because I am too close with them. Well they all have very strong opinions, in fact sometimes they are all a little more opinionated than I would like, and they are very willing to share those opinions whether or not they are asked.
I love my children and they are my life but sometimes being an attached parent is exhausting. I tell Shane all of the time that I am way more tired after being mommy to our kids all day long than I ever was when I worked outside of the home. My only hope is that I can raise happy and healthy children and I feel that this is what is going to help me achieve that goal.
1. You will not go to the bathroom alone for some time. I am not sure how long this is going to last. My oldest is nine and even now when I am going to the bathroom he is knocking on the door and asking what I am doing or asking me questions. I don't know why it is such a hard concept to grasp for children that when someone is going to the bathroom they want to be alone. However I guess this is part of having my children attached.
2. I never would have guessed how much I would love my favorite carrier. I use my baby carrier for everything and wear her all of the time. I started with a simple pouch but have since graduated and there is not a carrier style that I have not owned. I am obsessed with wearing her and not many days go by in which she is not worn at least for a little bit.
3. Co-sleeping is amazing. I have such a strong bond and connection with my little ones but there is the fact that I have no idea when Shane and I will be able to share a bed again. That's right my bed is typically shared with my little ones and Shane is typically on the couch. I miss the intimacy that we had when we could lay in bed and talk to one another.
4. I also never knew that such a little person could take up so much room in the bed. Somehow my 2 1/2 year old is able to take up more room than Shane and I together.
5. I could have never imagined all of the ill parenting advice that I would get becuase of my choices. I love being told how my kids are going to be weird or that they are not going to be independent or be able to think on their own because I am too close with them. Well they all have very strong opinions, in fact sometimes they are all a little more opinionated than I would like, and they are very willing to share those opinions whether or not they are asked.
I love my children and they are my life but sometimes being an attached parent is exhausting. I tell Shane all of the time that I am way more tired after being mommy to our kids all day long than I ever was when I worked outside of the home. My only hope is that I can raise happy and healthy children and I feel that this is what is going to help me achieve that goal.
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